Sex Isn’t Just Intercourse: How to Be More Sexually Playful

While people can bicker about what sex is and what sexual activities “count”, for many couples it ends up meaning one thing – intercourse. I don’t know if it’s due to ease or convenience or if couples just perceive it to be the ultimate act, but intercourse usually gets billed as the main event. But it doesn’t have to be. Sex can encompass all kinds of sexual activities, making your intimate moments more diverse, playful, and fun. One of the ways to recapture that playful sexual spirit is to bring a youthful curiosity and sense of experimentation back to your sex life. Remember all the excitement and promise that getting up someone’s shirt or down someone’s pants used to hold? You can have that again just by remembering all the bases.

Handplay gets a bad rap as being awkward or difficult, which is a shame because handjobs and fingering can be quite fun. Sure, your partner may have some expertise in getting themselves off manually, but that just makes them perfect teachers.

Oral sex, too, often becomes reserved for special occasions, perhaps because some think it’s degrading or hard work. Blowjobs shouldn’t be saved for birthdays and anniversaries, however. Blowjobs can be a part of any sex play, and even be the main event. Ditto for cunnilingus. Eating a woman out is often the most pleasurable activity, and often the only way many women orgasm.

So if you find that you’ve gotten into a sex rut, try to mix it up by taking intercourse out of the picture. Here are three things to try with your partner to be more sexually playful:

High School Make-out. High School Musical is all the rage, so perhaps it’s time to revive high school make-out sessions as well. Just make-out with your partner on the couch, in the car, at a bar, wherever you can get your hands on each other. That’s it. It’s a huge turn-on and a great reminder that there is sex life beyond intercourse.

Hand Jive. The next time you start to get down with your mate, start a game that anything goes – as long as it’s with your hands. Get creative with touch, and practice getting each other off with your hands.

Oral Delight. If you’re more the oral type, try a session of exploring each other with your mouths only. And don’t just move from the head down to the toes, but mix it up. Go down on your partner for a bit, and then go back to kissing her neck, back, and thighs.

I hope your recess from intercourse is full of fun!