Telling people that you have been practicing sending your Chi up your spine during sex to help cultivate a multi-orgasmic relationship is one hell of an ice-breaker.
At least that’s what I’ve found as I set out to read and review The Multi-Orgasmic Man and The Multi-Orgasmic Woman. Designed to help those seeking to enhance their sexual relationships, both books are written by Mantak Chia, a Taoist practitioner and author who has spent years helping westerners more easily understand Taoism (at least according to Wikipedia).
Both books work on the underlying premise of Chi and how understanding and controlling it can help a person become multi-orgasmic. While this is a premise I would love to buy more fully, I can’t say that either book did a very good job selling me. To help the reader understand Chi, the book gives this example: “Rub your hands together for ten seconds, and then hold the palms about an inch apart. If you concentrate, you should be able to feel the flow of energy between them.” That’s how you choose to exemplify thousands of years of Chinese medicine? Really? I’m no scientist, but I think I can come up with a better explanation for that then Chi. Simple heat? Or maybe I created a static charge of some sort? Putting that aside, however, I pressed on through the books and tried to read them within their framework.
In so much that I was able to accomplish that, the books each seemed as though they could add some value to any reader.
The Multi-Orgasmic Woman
The woman’s version opens by explaining that many women have difficulty coming to orgasm for many reasons, including life pressure, family pressure, social stigmas, and what I think could be summarized as a tiny bit of the crazies. The book suggests that not until women work to address these issues for themselves and cultivate a feeling of confidence and sexuality should they move on to reading the second half of the book. The book opens with a sexual profile quiz and contains spiritual exercises that, while I don’t really buy into them, could be beneficial for a woman. Helping a woman to understand herself and her body is always a good thing.
The second half of the book guides women on becoming multi-orgasmic through a process of sending the Chi back up the spine to re-circulate through the body instead of simply terminating in orgasm. While I don’t enjoy the wording, the concept seems graspable and potentially plausible. The New Age-y language is distracting for me at times, especially when the author tries to pass it off as science, but I think the book’s message is worthwhile. I would not be surprised that if one practiced returning the Chi to the body, they would soon find themselves to be multi-orgasmic. At the very least, the attention and focus it requires would certainly improve their sexual experiences.
The Multi-Orgasmic Man
Not surprisingly, The Multi-Orgasmic Man is shorter than the woman’s version, especially when you realize the second half of the book is really just fluff on helping me to avoid prostate problems, massage my testicles, and understand sex safety. It also includes an entire chapter dedicated to gay relationships and a chapter for a girlfriend to read.
The man’s book doesn’t have any of the psychological drivel in the beginning, and it uses more monosyllabic words, so I already like it better than the woman’s version. If you want the main message and have developed a general sexual openness, then just read the first 100 pages.
It’s in these first 100 or so pages where the book explains in a simple and straightforward way that orgasm and ejaculation, while generally happening simultaneously, are actually two separate events. Through exercise and practice, the two can be controlled and separated. The book suggests that ejaculating, as opposed to orgasming, should be avoided and used sparingly because cumming uses up a lot of “energy” that could be used for other, more important bodily needs. The book encourages you to take this stored energy and circulate it throughout your body.
This all sounds well and good, but after a few of the ridiculous claims from the woman’s book, I can’t help but be a bit hesitant on any claims made in this book. That and, well, have you ever seen Hugh Hefner? The guy is over 80, looks great, and is always smiling. Maybe he has been holding in his cum like a kid holding his pee in on a rollercoaster, but I doubt it.
While I may not agree with some of the more far-reaching ideas of either book, I think they both hold the potential to open a person up for more intimate and intense sexual experiences. Any reader would, if they were to follow the practices found in the books, find themselves more relaxed, more attuned with their feelings, and ready to open up sexually with others. A reader would also have, especially in the case of men, a physical task list to help them along the path of becoming multi-orgasmic. Even if that weren’t achieved, the exercises will lead to better muscle control and better sexual control in general. My guess is that a less skeptical person would really benefit from these books.
