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You’ve got the candles lit, the champagne poured, the clothing off, so you’re probably thinking: what is the sex position that’s gonna show how much I care?

Okay. So maybe you’re not. But perhaps you should. There are many sex positions that are great for getting off, but only a few that are exceptional for love. Lovemaking, that is.

If you’re in the mood for some of that eye-gazing, soul-sharing, bodies-becoming-one kind of sex, then these are the perfect sex positions for those tender moments.

• Spooning. What more evidence do you need beyond the visual of how well two spoons fit together? Spooning has your bodies snuggled together back-to-chest, and keeps the range of motion to a “tender” pace. Plus, it’s one of the ladies’ favorite sex positions.

• The Lotus. If you’re looking for a transformative sexual experience, try this spiritual sex position. The lotus encourages looking into each others eyes and caressing each other’s bodies while controlling the grinding and thrusting to prolong the sexual experience.

• Missionary. What it lacks in creativity and clit stim, the missionary position more than makes up for in eye-gazing, body contact, comfiness, and romantic movie appearances.

• Siamese Win. This side-by-side facing sex position gives you a lot of options for your wuv making. Your bodies can be close and intertwined, or your torsos can be apart to allow room for touching or talking.

So the next time you feel like making love, show your partner that you care to pick the very best sex position. And sing a song, or something.

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What happens when you and your mate prefer two different sex positions? Is there a happy compromise?

I’ve always been a main-stay kind of girl, and for those of you who don’t know what that means, it simply means that I’m not a fan of sleeping with more than one man in the same timeframe. I’ve always said I’d be a horrible cheater because one man drives me crazy enough, and thus far I’ve held true to that. I am also a very honest and open person. I will tell anyone what they want to know; and while this hasn’t always worked out for me, it is that very part of me that pays the bills so I guess I can’t complain.

So, why do I mention this? Well, because through my own honesty and the curiosity of my main-stay, we realized that we favor two completely different sex positions. I prefer woman on top, mainly because being in control is an incredible experience for me and makes it easier for me to orgasm. He prefers doggy style, preferably bending his partner over a bed or couch. At first, I thought to myself: Wow, what a bummer; but then I realized how awesome this could be.

You see, for the most part, I’m totally unbiased about which sex position I am rolled into, though I do enjoy keeping it interesting and changing it up during intercourse. However, I did take a minute to rethink my sexual history and realized that the majority of the men I’ve been with in the past enjoyed woman on top the most. Perhaps that pattern helped to influence my favorite sex position.

So, this new partner whose favorite position is totally different, well… it’s exciting.  I mean, when he bends me over whichever piece of furniture he chooses, how sexy am I going to feel? The second this happens, it will cross my mind that this is his favorite and I know that it will be a major turn-on to me. Honestly, I can’t wait to really experiment with him and see if anything changes.

So I guess different preferences can have a happy ending after all.

Yesterday we discussed the best sex positions for men, so it’s only fair that we give some attention to the ladies. Women have their own set of criteria for what makes a great sex position, and, no, it doesn’t always have to do with what feels most like “making love.”

While cuddling and body contact are nice, the real metric for a good position for women is the amount of attention her clit can get. That’s right; most women need direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Call it mother nature’s design flaw, but fast and hard thrusting in the missionary position isn’t going to get us off easily.

With that in mind, these are the best sex positions for women as determined by our willing (ok, possibly drunk) team of experts, in no particular order.

Spooning. Spooning was an overwhelming favorite among the women I talked to. Before you are quick to assume that it’s the closest position to cuddling that sex can be, consider the other benefits of this position. The rear entry stimulates the front wall, or G-spot; the shallow thrusting the position allows focuses all the sensation on the first third of the vagina, which is where most of the nerve-endings are; and there is easy access for him or her or your favorite vibrator to touch her clit. Her legs closed makes it even better because it creates extra tightness. Plus, it’s a great position for morning sex (no worries about morning breath) and anytime hangover sex.

Reverse Missionary. This woman on top position is great because it gives her control over the pace, motion, and depth of penetration. While the cowgirl position allows him to penetrate a little deeper, the reverse missionary has her leaning forward more, making the thrusts more shallow, but increasing the indirect pressure on her clit. She can get extra stimulation by grinding against his pubic bone while riding. This is also a comfortable position from which she can not only move up and down, but circle her hips for interesting sensations.

Downward Dog.  This modified doggy style position scored high among women as well. Downward dog is a rear entry position with her head and shoulders forward resting on bed, so it’s more comfortable for her. Downward dog has all the benefits of rear entry sex – deep penetration, front wall stimulation, and the space to use her hands for masturbating – but this modification protects her cervix from eager thrusting a little bit more than doggy style.

Coital Alignment Technique (CAT). This textbook sex position sounds dull, but it is designed with women’s pleasure in mind and boasts the highest rates of orgasms among women and simultaneous orgasms among couples than any other. CAT is a different take on the missionary position in which instead of the old in and out, he “rides high” with his pelvis up and forward. This alignment puts the shaft of his penis right on her clitoris, so when the couple slowly rocks together, it produces a ton of sensation. He doesn’t suffer any because the glans, or head of his penis, is still highly stimulated.

The Lap Dance. Sitting sex positions don’t win popularity contests, but they’re actually pretty fun. In the lap dance, he sits in chair, she straddle him while facing him, and both partners have their feet on floor.the couple has a lot of leverage to thrust, and there’s also plenty of body contact. It’s perfect for a romp in the kitchen while you’re waiting for water to boil.

Whatever variation you’re getting your groove on in, remember to pay attention to that little force to be reckoned with – her clit. With that, every position can be the best sex position for her.

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The Amazon, the Turtle, the Jockey – there is a world of hilariously named sex positions to try, yet most couples tend to stick to their favorites. Hey, knowing what you like isn’t always a bad thing; if it works for you, then it works.

But while everyone likes having an ol’ reliable position that will get things done on a Tuesday night before Conan comes on, there are also positions that lurk in the sexual fantasies of men until we get to live them out. The best  sex positions for men are the ones that do more than get the job done. They entice us with visuals of breasts and butts; they seduce us with power and control; they torture us with deep penetration and pacing.

After speaking to my crack team of researchers, we have compiled a list of the top 5 sex positions for men (in no particular order). Maybe your go-to position is on this list, or maybe these positions are the stuff of fantasies for you, but either way these best sex positions meet all the criteria to excite and please men.

Doggy Style. It’s easy to predict the first one on our list, doggy style. For some reason, every guy wants to flip that girl around and romp like Rover. We commonly found that men like to be able to grab a hold and, well, grab a hold and really fuck something. And doggy style is amazingly suited for such a task – you can grab onto her shoulders, hips, and ass for leverage as you’re thrusting. Another reason why this sex position is so desirable is the view. The visuals of her curves and his penis going in and out of her excites on a primitive level. The sense of dominance, the power to thrust, and the hot visuals make doggy style one of the best sex positions for men.

The Cowgirl. The cowgirl sex position is also popular among men for some of the same reasons as doggy style. Woman on top means pulling on her hips for extra thrust and a spectacular view of her face and body as she rides you. Plus, the cowgirl position puts her in control of the pace, so it takes off some performance pressure. You can just lie back and enjoy the ride.

The Reverse Cowgirl. Wait … so there’s a position in which she’s on top and does most of the work, but I get deep penetration and views of her ass on my cock? Um, yeah, the reverse cowgirl is just an amazing sex position. It takes a confident woman to be in this position, which makes us all the more aroused and grateful when she does it.

Missionary. We were a little embarrassed by this choice at first, but then we realized there is nothing wrong with a classic. The missionary sex position seems natural; it’s easy to get into from any foreplay activity and bodies just seem to fit comfortably with man on top. One variation we found many men liked is to start in the missionary position, but push up on their arms and look down at the woman, to sneak in the sexy views this position doesn’t usually afford.

The Butterfly. The butterfly position is a sitting sex position in which she’s on the edge of the bed with her legs on his shoulders, while he stands or kneels facing her. This is another sex position with a good view and good grips, letting the man pull on the thighs or grab the woman’s butt. Because he isn’t supporting his weight on his arms, the man is also fee to fondle some boobs. This is always a plus in any position.

Honorable mention goes to anal sex. For better or worse, this is high on most men’s fantasy lists. Most of the guys I consulted admitted to not regularly having anal, but wanting to try it. This one dude said he did it all the time, but the rest of us think he was lying.

So what did we learn? We learned that men are visual - shocking, I know.  We also learned that men like sex positions that give them control of the action – the thrusting and penetration. This isn’t always the case, especially in a position like the cowgirl, but they seem to like to grab and push and pull. Any position that meets those criteria winds up high on a man’s list.

What do you think of our top 5 sex positions for men? Did we miss your favorite?

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