How Sex Can Help in Stressful Times

It’s no secret that we are in particularly stressful times, with a global economy in crisis and a fierce election going on. In our increasingly busy lives in these dire times, we are accumulating more and more stress. Stress is detrimental to our health and overall well-being, including our sex lives. Whether it’s working extra hours or staying “plugged in” to get the latest news updates, people are spending less time connecting with their partners physically and emotionally. Ironically, sex is proven to release endorphins and reduce stress, but it’s usually the first thing to go in times of anxiety. Sex with your partner is healthy, comforting, and free, making it a great past time in trying times.

Here’s how to prioritize sex when you’re stressed:

• Go on a media diet. Unplug. If a big source of your stress is watching the DOW drop every minute, turn it off. The bad news will still be there in a few hours, and you’ll be better able to deal with it after a healthy break. Use that extra time to initiate an intimate moment.

• Expand your definition of sex. If times are too busy or stressful for a luxurious afternoon of lovemaking, you can still connect with your mate and get off. Mutual masturbation, handplay, and oral sex all can be as gratifying and intimate.

• Identify your need for sex. Don’t wait for a wet dream to wake you up. If you can’t remember your last orgasm, then it’s time for another one - STAT! Steal time with your partner anyway you can get it, or go on a solo mission, but get the job done.

• Schedule it. Unromantic, we know, but if you spend most of your day double-booked and over-committed, then you have to schedule it. Sneak sex time in whenever you can, and make the best of it.

• Treat yourself. If you recognize that you’re totally stressed, treat yourself to a sensual pleasure. Maybe it’s new body lotion, or scented candles, or just locking yourself in the bathroom long enough to enjoy some tea. Getting some quality “me time” will relax you, and get you in touch with your body and desires.

• Cuddle. If you’re having rough times, maybe the best thing you can do is give or get a hug. Cuddling with your partner can be comforting, and may be a surprise turn-on.