Fun Sex on a Budget

Last night I couldn’t sleep. I discovered that the only thing on TV at 3:30 in the morning is infomercials about some sort of sex product interrupted only by commercials about products to help you sleep.   I can only conclude that there are a lot of people out there having sexless and sleepless nights.

Frankly, there’s a lot to lose sleep (and I daresay sex) over, if you watch the news.  We all have concerns about the financial state of our country, and the implications it has on our own personal financial issues.  I got to thinking about how worry and stress can affect our sex lives and our interests in trying new things.  I mean, when you’re worried about how you’re going to feed your family, you’re not really thinking about trying out a new sex toy, right?

While lingerie, sex toys, and even vacations are great ways for couples to enhance their sex lives, for many they’re just not realistic expenses right now. But with little creativity, there are new things we can all try on a budget.

• Check out free erotica. The internet has given many erotica writers and artists the space to explore fantasies and share stories, all while making it free and available to the rest of us. Checking out sites like Proper Filth and zivity just might provide a new kind of turn on - for free.
  

• Sign up at a lifestyle website. Those of you who read my tips on the swinging lifestyle know that my fiancé and I are swingers. One thing I recommend if you want to spice up your sex life is checking out a swinger’s website.  My favorite is swinglifestyle, since it offers free profiles.  I recommend this even to couples who are not interested in swinging, because in the process of creating your profile you’ll get to explore interesting questions about your sexuality.  You don’t even have to finish it, just look at the questions it asks and try to answer them with your partner.  If you are honest with each other it will give you some great ideas for spicing up your romance.

• Communicate in new ways. One tactic I like to use is to ask your partner to describe you.  Don’t use it as a trap, use it as a way to see what your partner loves about you.  Try to see yourself the way they see you and even try to see the things they want to see in you.  You can learn a lot about what your partner finds sexy about you, and in turn feel more sexy yourself.

• Make your own porn.  I like to take pictures of myself naked, or in tiny little outfits, and sporadically text them to my fiancé while he is at work.  Even if it isn’t necessarily something you would want to wear, find something you think your partner would like to see.  It can work wonders on your sex life, and turn you on to try something a little risky.

Ultimately, we all want to feel sexy and loved.  It’s time to figure out what we need to do to feel that way without spending on the frills.  Opening up communication is free!  Sharing fantasies is free! We are all looking to spice things up every once in a while, and it’s timely to try ideas that can work without money.  Anyone can buy a new toy or outfit, but it takes thought to do something that is free.  Your partner will love the idea that you spent time trying to figure out something that would please him or her.