Swinger Secrets for Dealing With Jealousy

When people learn that I’m a swinger, the big question a lot of people ask me is, “Don’t you get jealous seeing your fiance with other attractive women?” I really don’t. Many women get jealous when their man just looks at another woman, but I enjoy it. It gives me the chance to see what turns him on and come up with ideas to bring back to our bedroom.

When you are in the swing lifestyle, you have to confront a lot of jealousy issues that many vanilla (the term swingers use to describe non-swingers) couples often avoid in their relationships. It doesn’t mean that jealousy is never an issue for some people, but the lifestyle makes you deal with it and talk about it in constructive ways. For me, jealousy really isn’t a part of my life anymore.

The truth is one of my favorite things is to see my fiancé with other women. Some people might see it as arrogance, because I never worry and I know he is coming back to me. Honestly though, I see it as confidence. It makes me happy to see him with other women. The fact is that most swingers, male and female, are checking out the female half of couples. Most guys have a fantasy of being with 2 women at the same time, and a large number of the women in the lifestyle are bisexual. I know my fiancé and I are typically looking at the female half of the other couple. You learn early on to not view other women as a threat, but instead a potential playmate.

If you open yourself up and control your jealousy, you can get a lot of ideas that can spice up your sex life. I can’t tell you how to get that way, because it is different for everyone. I personally try to use everything as a chance to talk to my fiancé and adjust what we are looking for. If you feel confident in your relationship, then you have nothing to worry about. Many of my vanilla  friends don’t see how I can watch him with other woman and not get jealous. I can’t say the little green monster never shows up, but I KNOW at the end of the day he is coming home with me. I know our sex life is great and that we are both willing to work to please the other, so I don’t worry about it.

I know I have said it over and over again, but I do not think anyone can hear it enough. Communicate! If you are able to keep the lines of communication open and honest, you won’t have a problem. At one point in my life, I was an exotic dancer, so my fiancé knows that a lot of people have seen me naked. He also knew that at the end of the night he was picking me up and I was coming home to him. I know there were times he worried about me and was afraid something might happen, but he never needed to worry I was looking for someone else. Because we kept communication open and honest, he knew what I wanted and I knew what he wanted. That is how we avoid jealousy issues.