Sexual Fantasy Shortcuts

I guess I was feeling lazy yesterday when I wrote that sexual fantasies are hard work, because there are many that are totally easy, fun, and even spontaneous to try out.  While an elaborate scene might take a lot of planning and forethought, indulging in many common sexual fantasies can happen on the fly, assuming both parties have a good imagination and are into it. Here are some shortcuts to acting out common sexual fantasies that you can improvise almost anytime or anyplace.

Fantasy - Being submissive. Most people fantasize about being dominated in one way or another, or at least of being so overwhelmed with desire, that logic and resistance are futile. From rape fantasies to dreams of being someone’s fuck toy, many fantasize about relinquishing responsibility and control. Isn’t that why bodice-ripping romance novels are so popular?

Shortcut - Have sex blindfolded. If you’re not ready to build a dungeon in your basement but want to give submission a try, volunteer to be blindfolded before sex. It’s easy to improvise with a scarf or a tie, but taking away the sense of sight makes the blindfolded partner more vulnerable, which ups the excitement for them.

Fantasy - Being dominant. Another common fantasy is dominating a partner, which is arousing in part because of the control and power you have over their sexual pleasure.

Shortcut - Tease, but don’t please. There are a lot of ways to dominate that have nothing to do with thigh-high boots or inflicting pain. Controlling when a partner orgasms is an easy way to exercise a bit of dominance. Tease them up to the point of orgasm, and then stop. You have ultimate control of their pleasure, and they’re at your mercy until you make them come. Bonus if you add wrist restraints or sex toys.

Fantasy - Being watched. The idea of being watched is provocative and forbidden. It is arousing to imagine someone seeing you in your most primal state, and thus becoming their object of desire.

Shortcut - Put on a little show. Instead of a regular roll in the hay, have your partner sit a distance from you, then pleasure yourself in front of him or her. You get to be watched in an aroused and vulnerable state, which is probably a fantasy of your partner’s, too.

Fantasy - Voyeurism.  Watching others in elicit acts is another fantasy many people share. If the thought of secretly spying on the neighbors in the act turns you on, then this shortcut is for you.

Shortcut - Do a sexy photo shoot. Suggest a sexy photo shoot of your partner, and as they undress and strike a pose, you get to watch from behind a camera. The lens creates a distance and barrier between you; plus, you have control over what part of the action you are watching while they are unaware.

Fantasy - Having a threesome. Many people fantasize about the possibilities threesomes afford – two lovers pleasing them, two people to pleasure, watching, being watched – a lot can go down when there are more than two people involved.

Shortcut – Dirty talk. It’s no easy feat to find the right third, and at any rate, it is a fantasy that comes with some baggage when you act it out in real life. But one way to experience it is to talk about (as in dirty talk) what you would do if there were another person there while you’re with your partner. Take turns taking the lead. If she has a fantasy about two men, let her describe what the third mystery man is doing, and you try to provide as many sensory stimuli to match that fantasy as you can.

Sexual fantasies can be easy to act on with a little creativity and imagination. Try out these shortcuts when you’re feeling playful!

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