Turn Fizzle Into Sizzle: Hot Sex Tips

Tara Riley is a new guest blogger on Whoopie School. She lives in Pennsylvania.

I’ve known my fiancé for seven long years. Of those seven years, we’ve been sleeping together for the past three. As you can imagine, we know just about everything about each other. We do our best to  keep the sizzle in our sex life. Here are some of our best tips - hopefully the ways we keep things interesting between the sheets will help you, too.

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1. Time and Distance. We live about two hours from each other, so there are times that we don’t see each other for days at a time. Sure, this really sucks, but we make it work for us. First, if I’m coming into town, one of us is going to send the inevitable text message: “Oh the things I’m gonna do to you tonight.” Second, we always start the night off with friends and agree beforehand what time we’d like to head off to spend some time alone together. So, the entire time we’re hanging out with our friends, we’re counting down the hours and minutes until we’re getting down. And when I can’t get him out of there soon enough, I end up telling him exactly what I want to do. Unfortunately, I’ve accidentally told him loud enough for the whole bar to hear that all I wanted to do was go home and have sex. Yeah, the music stopped.

The distance from each other creates anticipation and excitement in our sex life. Even if you live with your partner, you can do things to create that same hunger, by spending time separately with friends or sending dirty messages to each other when you’re apart, for example.

2. Fantasy Lists.  No, I’m not talking about fantasy sports, I’m talking about sexual fantasies. Believe it or not, there are a few things that we haven’t done. Shower sex, anal sex, and car sex all come to mind. Two of those made it onto my fantasy list, all three made it onto his. While he won’t be getting any anal sex anytime soon, the important thing here is that we know what the other wants. I know it’s okay to wake him up with sex, and he knows if there’s ever an opportunity for us to get it on in the Charlotte Russe dressing room, that I’m game.

Share your fantasies with each other, and look for opportunities to act them out in some way. It helps keep sex fun and surprising.

3. Penis Enhancement Pills. Okay, so he’s already pushing 9.5, which I admit in the beginning made me uncomfortable at times, but now I just can’t get enough. Yes, you heard that. Girls actually like to have sex. And if there’s something out there that will make him bigger or last longer, sign us up.

4. We Tease. That’s right. From the moment I walk through the door until we’re between the sheets, we’re teasing each other. I’ll be standing behind the counter at the shop talking to someone on the phone and the next thing I know he’s kissing my neck. Or when we head to the bar later, there’s a lot of thigh touching. We hold hands. There’s no help for us if we end up playing pool. And once we get between the sheets it seems as if that only ups the ante. It’s all about foreplay. It can take the average woman up to four times as long as her partner to have an orgasm, which is where foreplay comes in. Paying attention to her needs before you start having intercourse will ensure that you’re both satisfied.

Don’t forget to flirt with and tease your partner. Teasing is a great way to increase desire and arousal, and to keep the fun in your relationship.

5. Cuddling. We always cuddle after having sex. We could be in a king-size bed and I would bet money that we would end up on either side tangled up in each other the next morning. It helps keeps us close, especially during the nights that we don’t have sex.

Any form of non-sexual touching keeps you close and intimate with your partner. And it just might get you in the mood for all kinds of touching later.

Try out one of these tips to put the sizzle back into your sex life!

[Editor's Note: Whoopie School does not advocate the use of penis enhancement pills. There is no research that proves they are effective, and can even possibly be dangerous. But, hey, to each their own ... ]