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"I met this really sexy guy at a bar last night. I decided to go home with him ... what a total waste of time. He was so boring in bed. I'll think twice before I have a boring one night stand again." |
6 Things That Make Men Boring Lovers |
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With all the things men worry about when it comes to sex - penis size, endurance, frequency - being a boring lover is pretty low on the list. It shouldn't be. Boring sex is hard to make up for, even with a nice dinner or a huge cock. In contrast, being an attentive, enthusiastic, and adventurous lover can go a long way with the ladies. So how do you avoid being a boring lover? Well, we have gathered the most common complaints when it comes to boring sex. Read on and see if you are committing one of the boring in bed sins, and how to avoid it. Just running "the bases". While the baseball metaphor was probably helpful at some point in your life, it is time to retire it. Kissing + boob touching + light petting = boring sex, especially if it is always in the same predictable pattern. The body and mind offer a number of possibilities for pleasure to explore, so be creative and adventurous. Conversely, don't expect every woman you are with to like the same things - some women like their nipples to be touched, some are totally indifferent, and some find it uncomfortable. Relying on the same moves in every situation is not going to please her. Being too intercourse-focused. I get it, you have a penis, you want to insert it into something, but intercourse is not the only way to get off. Many women (as in 70%) can't orgasm from intercourse alone, so when you have a "let's get to the penetration" attitude, it says that you don't care about her pleasure and that you don't have much in the way of other skills. Try to expand your definition of what sex is, and be more open to other forms of pleasure. Ignoring her pleasure. The classic boring lover move is not paying any attention to her pleasure. If you want something to masturbate into, buy a sleeve. It is painfully boring for a woman, not to mention unsatisfying, when a guy just hops on and humps away. If you want to have sex WITH someone, look into her eyes, make body contact, and kiss. In other words, build desire and create some intimacy in order to avoid boring sex. Trying the "backdoor sneak". Seriously, it didn't work when we were in high school, so if you are still trying this lameass move, you are not only a boring lover, but also a total loser. The thing is, more women would probably be into anal play if overzealous, ignorant guys didn't ruin it for them. Ditto for any other "move" you push onto her after she's said no. If you want to try anal play, go slowly, use a LOT of lube, and listen to her feedback. Confusing porn and real life. If you, like many men, have watched a lot of porn, understand that what you seen on-screen is not what most women like in bed. In fact, the cervix-pounding, constantly changing positions type of sex in porn is beyond boring - it can actually be uncomfortable. To avoid being a boring lover, instead of copying what you saw on that last porn, ask her to show you what she likes, and pay a lot of attention to her clit. Not taking feedback well. We are all unique in what exactly we enjoy sexually, so if she is confident enough to tell you what she likes and dislikes, learn to take feedback well. Ignoring her communication or getting upset only means that you are going to keep having boring sex, if she stays with you at all. It can be really fun and erotic to talk about and show each other what you like, so make feedback fun instead of awkward. To avoid being a boring lover, be open to trying new things and be attentive to her pleasure. When both partners are getting pleasure and you break from routine, sex is even more exciting. Now you know what not to do in order to avoid boring sex - give it a try. |
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