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A one–night stand may seem like no–strings–attached sex in easy, single–serving installments, but the fact is that if not executed properly, a one–night stand can lead to a lot of headaches, or worse. It takes a little bit more than 1 part seemingly available person + 5 parts alcohol to make a one–night stand go off successfully.
Consider the following rules of engagement to have a guilt–free, mutually satisfying one–night stand experience.
- Be honest. While flirting, you have some license to exaggerate; when it comes to one–night stands, be clear about your intentions. Don’t tell the other person you care about her or see a future with her if you just want to have sex. Saying things like, “I’m not looking for anything serious” or “I don’t want anything committed right now,” indicates that your intentions are not long–term. Not only should you be upfront before the dirty deed goes down, but after, treat her respectfully and be clear about your follow–up intentions.
- Be safe. Practice safer sex, always. A one–night stand is not the time to take the woman’s word on birth control, disease status, and sexual history. STDs and pregnancy tend to not be desired outcomes of a one–night stand. To be prepared, invest in good condoms (not the cheap ones), and find a brand you like. Also, have some lube on–hand to make using condoms more enjoyable.
- Prioritize her pleasure. People have one–night stands presumably because they are looking to have a satisfying sexual experience. Just because you aren’t emotionally attached to someone doesn’t mean you can be selfish and not care about her pleasure. Check in to make sure she is enjoying herself, or just ask her what she likes.
- Save the freaky stuff. One–night stand sex tends to be pretty vanilla. Hot? Yes. Spontaneous? Yes. Passionate? Hell yes. Freaky? Um, unless you explicitly got together to share in some kink, save the anal sex, BDSM, roleplaying, etc. for when you have a foundation of trust.
- Don’t create false expectations. Don’t give her a fake phone number or promise you’ll call if you have no intention to. If you had a good time, you can leave the door open for a booty call, otherwise don’t lead her on to think you are interested in more than the one night.
One night stands should be fun for at least that one night. Follow these tips to make your your no–strings–attached sex is satisfying, safe, and drama–free.
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