A one–night stand may seem like a good idea at the time (the time being 5 cocktails deep, usually), but if not executed properly, can end in heartache, headache, or, worse, pregnancy. There’s nothing wrong with a woman getting her groove on, but make sure you take measures to protect yourself emotionally and physically.
Consider the following rules of engagement to have a guilt–free, mutually satisfying one–night stand experience.
- Be honest – with yourself. Before you have a one–night stand, make sure that one night is all that you want. If you meet a hot guy you’d like to snack on for the night, do take him home. If the guy you’ve been crushing on for months wants to shag, well, know that it probably won’t be anything more than that. Don’t trade sex for affection or love; you will end up on the losing end of the deal.
- Be upfront. Before you head to his place or yours, discuss logistics. If you don’t want him to stay over, let him know beforehand. If you’re going to his place, make sure it is a comfortable place to stay (i.e there’s toilet paper and his mom won’t walk in), or that you have a safe way home. Don’t let the warm and cuddly feelings before sex cloud your judgment and put you in a dangerous situation.
- Be safe. Practice safer sex, always. If he complains that he doesn’t like condoms, kick him to the curb. Don’t take his word on his STD status. Condoms aren’t a man’s job, so make sure you have some on–hand.
- Make sure you get yours. In order to maximize your experience, communicate what gets you off. Don’t assume that he is going to know all the magic buttons to press. Tell him what you like, and he’ll follow your lead.
- Be cool. If you had a good time, let him know, and leave it at that. Don’t start naming your children and planning your life together just because you’re in some post–orgasm haze.
One night stands should be fun for at least that one night. Follow these tips to make your your no–strings–attached sex is satisfying, safe, and heartbreak–free.
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