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"Get Your Partner Off with Your Hands"

Handplay, or the term we’re using to talk about how to give a handjob and how to finger a woman, is underrated. We understand why. Manual stimulation is often associated with awkward high school makeout sessions, and is typically not revisited later in life after the excitement and ease of oral sex and intercourse. Plus, most people assume their partners masturbate with their hands and therefore are better at it than they are. But there are a lot of reasons to perfect your digital stimulation know-how.

Reasons to Master Manual Stimulation:

• Safety. While it is still possible to contract an STD from hand–to–genital contact, it is less likely than with other sexual activities. It is one of the safer ways to get off with a partner. Just make sure to wash your hands!
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• Learning. A great way to learn what gets your partner off is to have her lay back while you touch her, and vice versa, and watch what she responds to. Or have her show you how she touches herself. It is easier to ask “do you like that?” without a cock or clit in your mouth, trust us.
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• Mismatched sex drives. Sometimes one partner wants more sex than the other, it just happens. An easy way to reach a compromise is with your hands, and no we’re not talking about a handshake. A friendly handjob or finger–fuck can tide a horny partner over for a bit, while likely turning the other partner on as they get you off.
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Now that you have the proper motivation, it’s time to demystify handjobs and fingering. But first, make sure you have clean, well–manicured hands (that does not mean long, painted nails), a positive attitude towards hand–lovin’, and a willingness to ask questions.

Tip: Masturbate with your partner. You will each learn a lot about what the other person likes.

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