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"I want to go down on my girl, but I don't even know where to begin and I get nervous every time I try to start. How do I perform cunnilingus?" |
How to Perform Cunnilingus |
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Going down on a woman may seem like a journey into unknown lands, but it really isn’t all that mysterious. Many guys are (understandably) hung up on penetration, but women actually experience a lot of sexual pleasure outside of the vagina, and cunnilingus allows you to stimulate all those hot spots. To perform cunnilingus, start with our three simple basic tips. The Three A’s of CunnilingusAttitude. The first and most important step when going down on a woman is to have a good attitude. If you’re at all squeamish or reluctant about cunnilingus, she’ll be too nervous to enjoy it. Many women have been conditioned to be ashamed of their bodies, so if you don’t get excited by the chance to go down her, she won’t be excited either. A good attitude means:
Now, if you are uncomfortable about eating out a woman, it’s okay ... but try to understand why. Are you worried about the taste? Suggest a warm, sudsy shower together, then go down on her. Is it skill? Tell her that you’re a little nervous that you won’t be good. She’ll find it endearing, and will be relieved to know that it doesn’t have to do with her. Because every woman is different, it’s worth it to give cunnilingus a try a few times to see if you like it. Admittedly, her attitude greatly contributes to her oral pleasure, so if you’re already an avid muff diver, don’t be afraid to let her know. Tell her how much you like doing it, how turned on you get, and how great she tastes. The more confident she is that you like going down on her, the more she will be able to enjoy it when you do. Anatomy. Okay, now that you have a good attitude going in, you need to know a little bit about the lay of the land down there. After a good amount of foreplay, you are ready to explore her vulva (the proper term for female genitalia). There is the mons, or the pubic mound, which can be massaged with your hands. Then the inner and outer lips, which can be stimulated by light pinching, touching, or licking. Then there’s the holy grail - the clit, the bean-sized protusion (or bigger or smaller depending) that actually extends much further in the body. Women orgasm from clitoral stimulation, either direct or indirect, so the clit is where you should focus when you perform cunnilingus. The vaginal opening responds a bit to the tongue, but is better stimulated with a finger, dildo, or penis. Don’t be afraid to ask your partner where and how she likes to be touched. Each woman is a little different, so the sooner you feel comfortable asking for directions, the better lover you will be. Attention. Paying attention to how your lover responds is always good, but imperative when it comes to eating her out. On your part, you will need focus and concentrate to give her the consistent stimulation she needs for orgasm. And you will also need to be attentive to how her body responds - is she grinding her hips? moaning? pulsing? All these are good signs. The combination of attention and experience will give you a lot of information on how to perform cunnilingus better over time. The right attitude and attentiveness will get started down the path to giving her tons of pleasure. For more advice on how to wow her with your oral skills, go to Cunnilingus Tips II. |
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