Love Like No One Is Watching

By now you all know that I am a swinger, but this week I would like to talk about love. Sometimes the idea of swinging makes people wonder if it is possible to have a committed relationship and still be a swinger. I can honestly answer yes to this. Actually it is a lot easier to separate love from sex than you might think. The hard part is to figure out when you are in love, and what love means to you.

There has been a lot of talk about gay marriage lately, and I really don’t think I can stay quiet on the issue anymore. As a bisexual, I see no difference between marrying a woman or a man. The key is love - when you find the person you love, don’t let anyone stop you from loving him or her. Love is too hard to find these days; if you are lucky enough to find it, don’t let anyone take it away from you.

I know that for a lot of us it is hard to talk about sexual preference because of the negative response we might get or have gotten in the past. With all the negative publicity out there about any relationship that is not one man and one woman, it’s hard to feel like you can be honest. The truth is that if you are happy and not hurting anyone, then why does it matter who you are married to?

Most of my family knows about my relationship, and some are more okay with it than others, but they all accept me for me. If someone has a problem with me, then they have to deal with it. My relationship is not by any means normal or conventional, but it makes me happy. Love is not restricted, and it shouldn’t be. Is it fair that this country does not allow gay marriage? NO. But does it really matter? Do you really need a piece of paper to tell you who you can love? I don’t think so. The government can not tell us who to love or how to do it. Money doesn’t create happiness and a piece of paper does not create love. Who cares if other people are okay with your love life? It’s YOUR love life.

So to whoever reads this, I ask you to do one thing. When you are done reading this go find your partner and kiss them. Don’t worry about where you are or if other people will be offended. Find your love, take your moment and stay there for as long as you can. Life is fleeting and we have all spent too long worrying about other people. Enjoy what you have right now, just be happy; if other people can’t be happy for you, that’s their issue.

Savannah is a twenty-something student and guest blogger. She lives in Pennsylvania.

Image courtesy of swister used under Creative Commons.