Eric* was the first. It was a wild night, starting with a party and ending with a hangover. But he was the beginning of a whirlwind of one night stands. Not long after there was Randy, months later I met Dean, and there was that one night with Brendan. Every time had its own special circumstances leading up to the magic, but they all had the same result: either he or I running out of the door and carrying on with our own lives before the sun could show our faces.

It is normal to have sexual needs, but sometimes the conventional courtship doesn’t quite fit into college life like we would want it to. When aren’t writing papers or studying, we are working our asses off to make enough money to buy the books and supplies that we use in the classes that tell us to write papers and study. And, yeah, there’s the partying that goes on, too. The American dream of settling down, buying a house, and having a couple juniors running around is in the distance at this point in time. It could be years before we are ready for any of those things.

Like any normal, young, hormonal people, we all have itches that need a good scratching.  So when temptation calls (or when enough alcohol has been consumed) and we get in our “special mood”, it’s sometimes easiest to grab the closest person and make more magic than Criss Angel.

One night stands can be loads of fun as well as gratifying, but there are some one night stand rules that should be kept in mind to ensure that each experience is full of pleasure, not pain or awkwardness.

• Don’t have one with anyone from any clubs, sports teams, or classes that you are deeply involved in. Whether it’s your psych class crush or your roommate’s cousin that you see eight times a day, it can get messy. If you’re dealing frequently with the person that you slept with, feelings are going to get involved. Either that, or your friends will wonder why you get that sickened look on your face every time you return from track practice. Mixing school and play can be tricky, so be cautious how you tread.

• Don’t let everybody get a turn.  It’s all too easy to get comfy with a group of friends. Pick the ones you hook up with carefully. They will compare and contrast stories, and no one wants to be the group bike. You should only let one of them ride. (Ok, 2. But that’s only if they’re hot.) Remember: College is like a huge high school and stories will spread fast.

• DO follow up. Guys, this is for you. Miss Manners can’t take care of this. You are the best judge of things. If all went well, don’t hesitate to invite your midnight lover for a quick lunch between classes. But if you aren’t feeling the chemistry, at least walk her back to the dorm. Only a douche dumps a girl without at least doing that much. You’ve been there, or you will be there, so try and keep karma on your side.

• DO use protection. Not to be the high school health teacher, but let’s use our noggins and put on a condom. Nobody wants to contract an STD or end up pregnant from a hook up, and you just can’t believe it when someone says they’re clean. Like I said, college is like a blown up high school, so if you’re spreading something, people are going to gossip about it. I don’t want to hear stories about Queen Clap in the quiet of the library, so wrap it up.

• DO be honest and communicate. If you’re engaging in casual sex, then you should be at the maturity level where you can talk about sex. If you are looking for a casual thing, tell the other person - don’t manipulate them into bed with false promises. If the other person isn’t touching you in a way that will get you off, show them how. These flings are a chance to learn about yourself and how to be a respectful, attentive lover.

I am not promoting random sex all day, every day. I’m just saying that it happens, and if you’re going to be getting it on, go into it with the right frame of mind. Hopefully these one night stand tips will keep you out of any messy situations.

* Names have been changed.

Remember the old slogan for the archaic telephone “reach out and touch someone”? Well, sexting makes that all the more easy and interesting. As a form of foreplay, sending suggestive or downright dirty text messages and pics is a good way to get your partner in the mood and give her something to fantasize about as she wiles the time away in her cubicle.

Because the brain is the biggest and most important sex organ, activating it with some hot text stimuli long before you get to first base is a big turn-on. It’s also a great way to tease and stay connected when you’re doing the long-distance sex thing.

Image by Cennydd used under Creative Commons license.

While the mechanics of texting are probably not a mystery, there is an art to sexting. Most importantly, put some thought into what will get your partner hot. Here are some other sexting tips:

Describe a fantasy. Sure, there’s a character limit, but you can sneak in a fantasy or two. For example: “I want to make love to you at the party tonight” will turn on any exhibitionist. Write about a shared fantasy you both have been wanting to try, which is sure to turn your partner on.

Give a directive. If you’ve got a dominant streak in you, let it out in your text. “Don’t wear panties when you meet me tonight” or “Be a good boy and be naked when I get home” is the perfect way to let your luva know they’re in for a sexy night.

Start a sex story. Because of the character limit and the back-and-forth nature of texting, it’s a good medium to start your own erotic story and see where it goes. Send a message like, “I’m kissing your neck and unbuttoning your shirt.” Find out what happens next when your sexmate texts back.

Send a pic. A quick pic might be just the visual stimulation your partner needs to get in the mood. The alluring cleavage that can be seen as you sit at your desk is easy to capture and as sexy as trying to get a flattering ass shot in the ladie’s room. And guys, your lady might like a shot of your best bedroom eyes as much as a cock shot – find out what her favorite body part is.

Check before you hit “send.” This is fairly obvious, but sexting is an extra-important time to double-check that you really picked “Mike” instead of “Mom” as the receiver of your amorous message. You’ve been warned.

That’s your foreplay tip for this week. Happy sexting, and enjoy your weekend!

Because I do. It’s just that I’ve been procrastinating in putting my list together. But you should not wait on my account. If you want the chance to win $1,000 worth of sex toys, read the details on Ginger Leigh’s Competition for a chance at a shopping spree at sextoys.com.

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I am giving away $1,000 in free sex toys from sextoys.com!

Listen up blogging babes and boys!  I am tired of always wishing for my own selfish needs and want to make someone else very happy.  You must create your very own wish list from any of the products found on sextoys.com.  List the name of each product, one sentence about why you are wishing for it and a link to the product on sextoys.com.  Please do not duplicate any products.  Although, I know how good it would feel to indulge in the decadence of having a new Gigi for every day of the week.

You do not have to purchase a thing in order to enter!

Pay attention all of you orgasm connoisseurs.  Do not let the total amount of your wishes exceed $1,000!  You will be left without a chance to make your toy chest over flow.  You must post your wishes on a blog that you own or in a forum that you are a member of.  Please read additional rules and details so you don’t miss out on your chance at a multitude of orgasmic possibilities!

There will also be smaller weekly prizes given out, check out the details below.  How fun is that?

Did I make your bottom tingle?  I sure hope so.  Do you still want to spank me?  Well, I kind of hope you want to do that too.  Here are the details:

Win up to $1,000 in free sex toys, plus free shipping. Please read these rules carefully to ensure that you create an eligible entry.  Also, for those bloggers or sex positive independent journalists who want a little exposure, see our post on WE GIVE GOOD TRAFFIC for details on being featured in the Sextoys.com blog and links to your best posts.

Rules:

First, create your wish list.  Any product found on Sextoys.com may be included in your wish list.  The only restriction is that the TOTAL value of your wish list must be equal to, or less than $1,000.  Ginger Leigh has a very strict budget, and if you go over by even 1 penny, you will be disqualified, so keep the calculator at the ready.

Next, post your wish list to your blog or forum.  THIS IS IMPORTANT:  Wish list posts must contain the following to be eligible.

The product’s name

A link to the product on Sextoys.com

One sentence on why you want the product.

Make sure that your post contains the product name, a link to it on Sextoys.com and a sentence about why you want it.

You can select any combination of products, as long as the value of the entire list does not exceed $1,000.  You may not duplicate products; Ginger doesn’t want one person hoarding all of the Fantasy Swings.

The final line of your post should include the total cost of your list and a link directly to this blog entry.

SEE A SAMPLE POST HERE.

*IMPORTANT - While we link to Extreme Restraints, those products are not eligible for use.

Make sure you post on a blog that you own, or in a forum where you are a member in good standing.  Wish lists posted in comments sections of others’ blogs or in public forums will be disqualified.  If you post in a forum and your post is deleted, you will be disqualified.

Once you have posted your wish list on your blog, send the permalink to your wish list post, your name and a contact number to experts @ sextoys.com. All entries must be received no later than Friday, June 5, 2009.  On Friday, June 12, 2009, Ginger Leigh will conduct a drawing for the winner.  The Winner will be drawn at random from the entire pool of entrants.

If your name is drawn, you win your wish list that you have posted.

Weekly Prizes: On May 3, 10, 17, 24 and 31, we will award weekly prizes, selected from all entrants who have posted before each date.  The Winners will be selected by Ginger Leigh and guest judges.  The prizes are awarded as follows:

May 3rd – The wish list with the sexiest toys for couples will receive a prize.

May 10th – The wish list with the sexiest toys for women will receive a prize. (Co-sponsored by Hotmovies for Her)

May 17th – The wish list that is kinkiest and most original will receive a prize.

May 24th – The wish list with the sexiest toys for men will receive a prize. (Co-sponsored by Hotmovies)

May 31st – The wish list with the most toys for under $1,000 will receive a prize.

By entering the contest, you certify that you are of legal age to receive a sex toy and that sex toys may be delivered to the jurisdiction in which you live.  Contestants must be at least 18 years of age (21 years of age in some jurisdictions).  Sextoys.com reserves the right to request a copy of a photo identification to verify age.

Spamming: You may create your wish list on your own blog, or in a forum where you are a member in good standing.  Wish lists created in comments sections on other’s blogs, public forums such as Craig’s List, About, and other public forums will be disqualified.  Sextoys.com does not support, nor tolerate the creation of spam.

Email: Do not email a wish list.  Wish lists sent by email will be deleted.

Prizes: Grand Prize is all of the toys on the winning entry’s wish list for free (up to $1,000) delivered free of charge to an eligible winner.

Out of Stock: If a product on your wish list is out of stock, or discontinued before the contest ends, we will allow you to choose a product, or products of equal value to replace it.

Eligibility: No purchase is necessary to enter.  Employees of Sextoys.com and any affiliated companies, as well as immediate family members of those employees, are not eligible to enter or win prizes.  You must be 18 years of age (21 in some jurisdictions) or older to enter.  By entering, you certify that you are able to legally receive shipments of adult novelties in your jurisdiction. Sextoys.com reserves the right to request a copy of a photo identification to verify the age of the winner.

Warranty:  Sextoys.com offers no warranty on prizes.

Good luck!

Tara Riley is a new guest blogger on Whoopie School. She lives in Pennsylvania.

I’ve known my fiancé for seven long years. Of those seven years, we’ve been sleeping together for the past three. As you can imagine, we know just about everything about each other. We do our best to  keep the sizzle in our sex life. Here are some of our best tips - hopefully the ways we keep things interesting between the sheets will help you, too.

Image by brina_head used under Creative Commons license.

1. Time and Distance. We live about two hours from each other, so there are times that we don’t see each other for days at a time. Sure, this really sucks, but we make it work for us. First, if I’m coming into town, one of us is going to send the inevitable text message: “Oh the things I’m gonna do to you tonight.” Second, we always start the night off with friends and agree beforehand what time we’d like to head off to spend some time alone together. So, the entire time we’re hanging out with our friends, we’re counting down the hours and minutes until we’re getting down. And when I can’t get him out of there soon enough, I end up telling him exactly what I want to do. Unfortunately, I’ve accidentally told him loud enough for the whole bar to hear that all I wanted to do was go home and have sex. Yeah, the music stopped.

The distance from each other creates anticipation and excitement in our sex life. Even if you live with your partner, you can do things to create that same hunger, by spending time separately with friends or sending dirty messages to each other when you’re apart, for example.

2. Fantasy Lists.  No, I’m not talking about fantasy sports, I’m talking about sexual fantasies. Believe it or not, there are a few things that we haven’t done. Shower sex, anal sex, and car sex all come to mind. Two of those made it onto my fantasy list, all three made it onto his. While he won’t be getting any anal sex anytime soon, the important thing here is that we know what the other wants. I know it’s okay to wake him up with sex, and he knows if there’s ever an opportunity for us to get it on in the Charlotte Russe dressing room, that I’m game.

Share your fantasies with each other, and look for opportunities to act them out in some way. It helps keep sex fun and surprising.

3. Penis Enhancement Pills. Okay, so he’s already pushing 9.5, which I admit in the beginning made me uncomfortable at times, but now I just can’t get enough. Yes, you heard that. Girls actually like to have sex. And if there’s something out there that will make him bigger or last longer, sign us up.

4. We Tease. That’s right. From the moment I walk through the door until we’re between the sheets, we’re teasing each other. I’ll be standing behind the counter at the shop talking to someone on the phone and the next thing I know he’s kissing my neck. Or when we head to the bar later, there’s a lot of thigh touching. We hold hands. There’s no help for us if we end up playing pool. And once we get between the sheets it seems as if that only ups the ante. It’s all about foreplay. It can take the average woman up to four times as long as her partner to have an orgasm, which is where foreplay comes in. Paying attention to her needs before you start having intercourse will ensure that you’re both satisfied.

Don’t forget to flirt with and tease your partner. Teasing is a great way to increase desire and arousal, and to keep the fun in your relationship.

5. Cuddling. We always cuddle after having sex. We could be in a king-size bed and I would bet money that we would end up on either side tangled up in each other the next morning. It helps keeps us close, especially during the nights that we don’t have sex.

Any form of non-sexual touching keeps you close and intimate with your partner. And it just might get you in the mood for all kinds of touching later.

Try out one of these tips to put the sizzle back into your sex life!

[Editor's Note: Whoopie School does not advocate the use of penis enhancement pills. There is no research that proves they are effective, and can even possibly be dangerous. But, hey, to each their own ... ]

Bonnie Zylbergold’s article on genital beautification is only one of the many I’ve read recently on the growing popularity of female genital consmetic procedures. More and more women are getting female genital cosmetic surgeries, procedures like labiaplasty and vaginoplasty (or “vaginal rejuvenation”), often because they don’t feel that their genitals are “normal” in appearance.

Zylbergold’s article suggests that women are largely ignorant to what “normal” female genitalia look like, and are seeking surgery unnecessarily.

… There is a huge lack of knowledge surrounding genital diversity for women. Women who have nose jobs or breast enlargements have a huge pool of comparison to draw from. They’ve seen probably thousands of noses every day, and even though we maybe don’t [often] see naked breasts, we certainly know what breasts look like.

Exactly! While I’m not a huge fan of cosmetic surgery in the first place, at least those electing to get a nose job have a lifetime of other noses to compare against, probably from a fairly diverse pool of people of different ages, genders, and ethnicities. In contrast, few women ever talk about the particulars of their vulvas, nevermind see female genitals beyond their own. The notion that someone does not have a normal vulva is based on very little actual information, other than the persistent messaging that something is wrong with female bodies.