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7 Ways to Have Long-Distance Sex

If you've never had long-distance sex, then you should be excited to know that technology has made it almost as easy and fun as the real thing. This is not your mother's phone sex (cringe at the thought). No, there are a lot of ways to get off with a mate from a far.

Learning how to have long-distance sex is useful if you are in a long-distance relationship, away on business, or otherwise just want to get freaky with someone on the other side of the country. Read on for seven ways to have long-distance sex:

Phone Sex

Phone sex is great way to have long-distance sex because it's low-tech, and you can have a pretty good personal connection with your partner over the phone. If you're not comfortable talking dirty on your cell, however, you are going to need some practice. So how do you initiate phone sex? The classic "what are you wearing?" is a pretty universal start to visualization, albeit a bit cheesy.

It's also perfectly fine to say, "I've been thinking about you all day ... naked. I miss your body." You can then go on to describe every body part you miss and what you would like to do to those parts. It might feel a little awkward to start, but once you get started it will pretty much take on a life of its own as you both get into it. Next time you are out of town, remember that long-distance sex is just a phone call away and give it a try.

Email/IM

Sending naughty emails or IM's is another way to get your long-distance groove on. This format is good because it gives you time to explore your fantasies before you write them down, and if you feel awkward, the distance of typing might make you feel less so. The down side of email or IM dirty talk is the anticipation of waiting for a reply ... sometimes it can be hot, other times just frustrating. I did a lot of dirty emailing in college. It was hard to get off when I had to walk to the computer center to check my email, only to find he hadn't replied yet. Laptops and instant messaging thankfully make it faster.

If you're feeling especially creative, instead of just writing, "I miss your hot boobs," try describing a sexual scenario that your partner can add on to. It's like creating your own choose your adventure erotica. If you're feeling uncreative, there are services like hoochymail.com that have generic naughty emails that you can personalize. Either way, email and instant messaging make long-distance sex an easy written affair.

Sexting

Sexting, or dirty texting, is like instant messaging, only it's through your cell phone. The great thing about this type of long-distance sex is that it is very portable, so you can send dirty messages or pics throughout the day from pretty much anywhere.

The bad thing about it is that it is hard to type long details on most cell phones, so you'll have to save the bodice-ripping novel for some other platform. Oh, and good luck taking a sexy ass shot in the lady's room stall with a camera phone.

Video Chat

Video chat through applications like Skype or Google video is another way to get your long distance sex on. Video chat has a number of benefits, including that you can see each other's expressions and hear each other's purrs and moans. You get all the visual and auditory stimulation of video. The negatives of video chat include looking at pixelated penises and the occasional application freeze - which is really bad if it freezes on a particularly awkward frame of you masturbating.

Otherwise, video chat is a great way to have long-distance sex with your mate or perfect strangers who you want to get off with in the safety of your respective homes.

Second Life

Second Life, a 3D virtual environment online, allows you to create an avatar that represents you and interacts with other avatars in virtual environments. Second Life is great for long-distance sexs because you can live out a number of fantasies - you can shape your appearance any way you like, select from a huge range of environments, and then act out fantasies with other avatars. The challenge with using Second Life is that it requires a ton of bandwidth, so if you don't have a good graphics card or a great internet connection, the lag time can create a lag time in your orgasm.

Teledildonics

Teledildonics are sex toys that are controlled remotely, usually from the internet or by cell phone. Admittedly, I haven't yet packed a "teledildo," but they sound pretty impressive. If you are in a long-term relationship and long-distance sex is on the menu for some time, it seems definitely worth the investment. Imagine controlling a vibrator that your girlfriend is wearing while you're at a conference in Phoenix - it sure can make your day full of suits that much more enjoyable.

Leave a little something something

Call me old-fashioned, but sometimes leaving a sexy token behind can be as arousing for both parties because of the element of surprise. If your partner is going out of town, slip a sexy thong, nude pic, or slip of paper with a poem in their suitcase. Or leave behind a reminder of the amazing sex you had on your weekend visit before you go back to your long-distance lives.

While there's nothing that captures the passion, pleasure, and intimacy of sex in person, these seven ways to have long-distance sex deliver the next best thing when you are separated from your lover. Who knows ... you may find that you enjoy the creative challenge so much that you go away more often. For more juicy sex tips and ideas, sign up for our FREE NEWSLETTER.